Still I Rise 
by Maya Angelou
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You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.

Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I’ll rise.

Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.

Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don’t you take it awful hard
‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines
Diggin’ in my own back yard.

You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.

Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I’ve got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?

Out of the huts of history’s shame
I rise
Up from a past that’s rooted in pain
I rise
I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
I rise
Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear
I rise
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise
I rise
I rise.

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Gorgeous poem.

The Guilt Trip
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I saw a very bad movie yesterday. It is still sitting with me today, the morning after. I am actually making this post public as a PSA. Don't waste your time watching The Guilt Trip.

Ugh. It's a bad taste in my mouth (brain.)

I like most movies, actually, and almost all genres. This movie is very inconclusive, and not in a good WTF kind of way, but in an anti-climactic, why did I watch this at all kind of way. Even some tv shows and movies are able to present an inconclusive slice of life in such a fascinating way that I feel honoured just to have experienced it. Not this movie. It's just blah.

Granted, there were a handful of times I laughed out loud. But overall the characters are very unlikeable, Seth Rogen as an uptight, narrowminded jerk to his mother. We don't even see or hear of a single character that is friends with him, that likes him at all, which only cements his unlikeability.

His mother, Barbra Streishand, is supposed to be a legend, isn't she? I really liked her character in Meet The Fockers (love those movies.) In this she is persistently annoying and needy :( Her face also doesn't look right and was very distracting. I was surprised to read afterward that she is 70 years old, her face is almost completely unlined but just looks weird, it is shaped strangely and only looks ok when she smiles. I don't like her face :( I feel bad writing that, and of course all sorts of looks are wonderful no matter if they match "conventional" definitions of beauty; no, it is more like her face isn't quite human? Too much cosmetic work, probably. It was distracting, especially considering that she and Rogen are the stars of the screen 95% of the time, up close and personal.

Watching these two interact was awkward and a bit painful and embarrassing. They are just so bland that when they're especially annoying that becomes the excitement in the movie.

The only highlight in the whole boredom train was a handsome older looking cowboy. I never found a cowboy character to be attractive before. I was surprised he'd be interested in Streishand at all. And all cause she ate a 50oz steak?? Wouldn't that be unattractive? It didn't even make sense.

This whole movie is just bad. No triumphs, no great sadness, absolutely zero excitement. Just awkwardness and annoying dialogue.

sorry guys
goldoyster
I am going to have to take a few of you off, that I don't know very well.

All the best.

new LJ friends
goldoyster
I was looking at my friends list and many of them haven't updated their LJs in years. I have just a handful of friends who update their LJ and I am feeling quite alone and sometimes bored, even with the non-stop work (sometimes I want to just sit here and share in people's lives.)

So if you have anyone you would recommend I become LJ friends with, who posts sometimes, please let me know!

public blog post
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with photos: http://1001petals.blogspot.ca/2012/10/thanksgiving-weekend.html

The incredibly tragic story of Tori Stafford's end
goldoyster
UPDATE, petition:

We, the undersigned, believe that when there is irrefutable evidence that a child was murdered with forethought, the murderer should lose their right to live within our society and should be put to death. 
Canadians strongly oppose the continued support of these individuals. 

We want this to be called Tori's Law.


http://www.charlesadler.com/2012/03/petition-for-toris-law.html

cross-posted from my public blog


On Sunday night I accidentally read about Tori Stafford's death. I came across an article in The Globe and Mail titled, Protecting Children from the Monsters Among Us. The first paragraph tells how Tori Stafford, an innocent 8 year old walking home from school, died at the hands of two terrible, monstrous people (if they could even be called people.) They also say she was sexually assaulted. . ..no, she was violently raped.

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I could hardly believe anyone could do all that.

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I cried a few times that evening. I could only sleep a few hours of broken sleep. I cried more the next day. This is why I generally avoid bad news, well, all news. I can't handle it.

But I'm glad I read it. I need to know how bad things can be.

Victoria Elle, my own Victoria, no longer is taking the bus to and from school. Although it was pretty safe with close supervision, on days with bus cancellations it is not very safe. They just let me walk in the school, along with dozens of other caregivers, to pick her up from the gym! No ID check -- nothing. Children available for the taking.

I don't expect the school to really check everyone's ID. We would've been there for hours! But still. It is up to me to make sure she is completely safe. The school is very good in general, no outsiders are allowed past the office, there are pylons and hopefully the office admin staff next to the windows looking out into the main hall would stop anyone just walking in.

I've always felt uneasy about the bus; I also miss out on seeing her teacher, and seeing how V behaves while in the fenced-in yard, etc.

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It has now been three days since I found out about what happened to Tori and I am following the news avidly, reading every detail.

Another reason I think it's good that we know how grisly some of the crimes are is so when we have a chance to vote on issues related to it, such as harsher sentencing, we can do it in an informed manner. I personally would like sentencing to go back to darker times, when murderous deranged junkie losers would be thrown in all together and beat each other up, eventually killing each other.

Not that that would compare to what has been done to poor Tori.

I think most "criminals" are just regular people lacking resources, support -- many are mentally ill and simply need help. But then there are the monsters. Rehab is not only useless for them, but far too kind. Let them die miserably.

As I watch the current murder trial unfold, I have little hope that the killers will get what they deserve. That is the final tragedy in this horrible story.

Make Joseph Kony Famous
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Joseph Kony (born 18 September 1964[4] in Odek, Uganda[1]) is a Ugandan guerrilla group leader, head of the Lord's Resistance Army (LRA), a group engaged in a violent campaign to establish theocratic government based on the Ten Commandments throughout Uganda.[1] The LRA say that God has sent spirits to communicate this mission directly to Kony.[5]
Directed by Kony, the LRA has earned a reputation for its actions against the people of several countries, including northern Uganda, the Democratic Republic of Congo, South Sudan and Sudan. It has abducted and forced an estimated 66,000 children to fight for them, and has also forced the internal displacement of over 2,000,000 people since its rebellion began in 1986.[6] As a result, in 2005 Kony was indicted for war crimes by the International Criminal Court at the Hague, but has succeeded in evading capture since.[7]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Joseph_Kony

Great explanatory video, worth the 30 min watch: http://vimeo.com/37119711

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I ordered the action kit and will be doing what I can from here. I am SO not an activist but I think this is actually worthwhile. I hope you do, too. Let me know what you think.

amazing design
goldoyster
I love the way this farm house is designed:

http://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/09/garden/the-decorated-shed-a-farm-goes-from-crops-to-candelabras.html?_r=1

My favourite, if you go through the slideshow, is the sofa made of logs in the forest.

Birth Bias
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Consider these statements:

1) Cancer patients do not have the right to safe and effective pain control because pain is a natural consequence of cancer and cancer is a naturally occurring human condition.
2) Those in burn units who are directly responsible for their injuries have no right to effective pain relief or compassion. If they don’t like that choice they shouldn’t have burned themselves.
3) Encourage surgical patients to forego pain relief both during and post surgery. Instead, have a staff member providing one-on-one encouragement not to have effective pain relief. Patients should be encouraged to think of their suffering as ‘a good pain’, to ‘work with the pain’ and to embrace ‘an altered sense of consciousness’. Infer that anyone who wants pain relief is a weak minded failure. Encourage competitive suffering with post surgery get-togethers.
4) Hospital policy should ensure that all palliative care patients ask at least twice before their request for pain relief is considered. If death is imminent consider denying the request.
5) Trauma sustained during torture results in damaged bodies and damaged psyches. Depositing a large sum of money in their bank account will make them forget all about it.
6) Psychiatric studies show that pre-rape courses reduce the terror women feel during and after rape.
In a civilized society these statements would beggar belief, and with good cause. They are offensive, insensitive and cruel.

Now consider the same statements when they are made about pregnant women:


1) Maternity patients do not have the right to safe and effective pain control because pain is a natural consequence of childbirth and childbirth is a naturally occurring womanly condition.
2) Those women who get pregnant should not expect choice in delivery options, nor should they expect pain relief or compassion. If they don’t like that they shouldn’t get themselves pregnant.
3) Encourage obstetrical patients to forego pain relief during and after childbirth. Instead, have a staff member providing one-on-one encouragement not to have effective pain relief. Patients should be encouraged to think of their suffering as ‘a good pain’, ‘to work with the pain’ and ‘to embrace an altered state of consciousness’. Infer that anyone who expects effective pain relief is a weak-minded failure. Encourage competitive suffering with post birth get-togethers.
4) Hospital policy should ensure that all obstetrical patients ask at least twice before their request for pain relief is considered. If birth is imminent consider denying the request.
5) Trauma sustained during childbirth results in damaged bodies and damaged psyches. As soon as you put her baby in her arms she will forget all about it.
6) Psychiatric studies show that pre-natal courses reduce the terror women feel during and after childbirth.

http://birthtraumacanada.org/20.html

The bias exists because of the myth that birth is natural and thus "normal." Read on at the above site to review the arguments against that, if you so wish.

hanneli
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http://www.hanneli.com -- Proof that if you're beautiful, you can wear anything

(I actually enjoy that blog.)

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